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Vickie Falcone, M.A.
Here’s an excerpt from our last teleseminar on How to End Power Struggles
From our recent Parenting That Works ! Introductory Workshop
“You Can’t Make Me!”: How to End Power Struggles
How to Get Kids to WANT to Listen and Cooperate
By Vickie Falcone, M.A.
“How do I get my kids to stop fighting?”
“What’s the best way to handle an angry child?
“How can I persuade my daughter to go to bed on time?”
If you’re like most parents, you want practical parenting tools that solve specific problems. You’ll need few parenting tools and techniques if you learn how to truly connect with your child.
One evening, after a parenting program, Andy, the father of boys ages three and five, approached me. “Vickie, this stuff might work on girls, but not on boys. You don’t have boys, so you don’t understand. I have to GET IN THEIR FACE to get their attention.”
“What is your tone of voice when you get in their face?” I asked.
He laughed. “I’ve had it, usually, and I’m mad.”
I empathized with him. I’ve been there at the end of the proverbial rope, resorting to the quickest technique I know — yelling. “Continue to get in their face,” I insisted. “Just do it with love. Instead of getting ‘loud and nasty,’ try ‘close and kind.’ Both get the results you want, and the latter doesn’t hurt the child.”
It’s true that we often get instant results when we get in their face. But we pay for these results with a strained relationship. This father had been practicing a truncated version of the eight steps of truly connecting. He made eye contact, used not-so-loving touch and gave the boys 100 percent of his focused attention. He just needed to add a few more steps to increase his likelihood for cooperation while, at the same time, preserving his relationship with his sons. At the next class, Andy shared that, though he had not mastered all the steps, even adding a few made his interactions with his sons go more smoothly. more